Don't tell me ...

1.To Relax- I don't enjoy people telling me I'm not pregnant because we're thinking about it too much. I am pretty sure they'd be thinking about it too if they were having issues. A doctor told me to stop thinking about it and to work on getting a promotion at work because that's what her daughter did. It took everything in me not to punch her... just give me some damn meds for my sinus infection. Just because you have access to my charts doesn't mean you should comment on what it says.

2. To Change my diet- I eat fine.

3. Stories about other people. It really doesn't make me feel any better. I am glad that certain things worked for others, but that doesn't mean it will for us. Comparing situations only makes me feel like what I am going through is normal and no big deal (both untrue).

If you want to help, be empathetic... that is a huge life skill people are lacking. Try to imagine your life without your kids. Try to imagine not being able to get pregnant after doing those stupid ovulation predictors. Imagine telling your husband for 16 months that the test is negative again. Think about what it's like being in pain, sometimes daily, due to endometriosis. Imagine everyone around you pregnant or with kids... I think I am the only one at work married without kids . Imagine looking at facebook and seeing yet another person announce their pregnancy. Imagine the bills for the inseminations that didn't work. Imagine worrying how to pay for IVF. It's not that I am not happy for others. But... it is painful every time and another reminder of what is so normal and natural for others, and so difficult for us.

Sometimes I feel like I am being a baby or being overly sensitive, but then certain friends and family lift me up and help me see that I should be feeling bad and that is a painful issue that I deal with all day everyday! Thanks to those people...